An indispensible ingredient of a relationship is involving the other party.
I mean, i didn’t have to check the Collins Dictionary to find the definition. It is implicitly designed into the construct of the term ‘relationship’ itself. And even if the cause may seem benevolent, without mutual agreement in the first place, it’d amount to quite bluntly, some what of a communist rule. And here i thought the fascist regime ended with World War II.
Going one step further back in this chain of thought, a mutual agreement requires prior discussion. There has to be a topic first, before we can agree on a topic. A tip on the male psyche – we like bring involved. if you’re thinking of a wedding photo shoot, talk to him about it. If you’re thinking of doing the ROM, ask his opinion first. If you want to plan for a wedding, I’m sure he’d need a certain degree of involvement. Someone’s got to drink all that alcohol after all.
But really, back to the topic. i think everyone could do with more asking. Unlike the austere boss with a heart of stone most of us probably have, men in a relationship don’t want to be simply dished the final product, with regards to most things – trips, wedding plans. Sure, surprises are a cardinal element. But I’m not talking gifts, where to put the bar counter, or surprise romps either. We’re talking life defining moments, not who prefers to be on top for tonight. With a little attention to the delivery of the message, the words used, every and any person can be coaxed into anything.
Maybe I’m being a tad sensitive. Perhaps your form of involvement was to lay out your suggestions to me, and see what i say to it. Or is it just me, spiraling amidst the frailty of a long distance relationship. Whatever the case, I’m finding it out myself – it’s not easy.
I do want it as much as you do, just in the right scheme of time, that’s all.
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